No, I’m not writing a letter to the school to have my child dismissed early or explain an absence. I’m not writing Best Buy because I need to explain why my computer, IPod or camera should be fixed under warranty and, I’m not writing to Verizon to thank them for upgrading my cell phone early. Those letters, all of which I have written in the past, would have been addressed to someone in particular. “To Whom It May Concern” is all I’m left with as you haven’t provided me your name…
I have been receiving what can only be described as vicious, series of ‘anonymous’ emails lately. The first was received on February 5th and the most recent (four in total) Thursday, April 21st. It occurred to me now that I’ve had a few days to think about them (again), that when someone is in the firing line of hate-for-your-own-good; I’ll-teach-you-a lesson, it can be really difficult to know what to say or how to make it stop; Especially when you don’t know who it is that wants to teach you that lesson or for that matter, what the lesson is.
I haven’t replied to any of these emails (I wanted to initially but now refuse to – why engage with someone who not only can’t write in complete sentences, use words in the correct context but also apparently doesn’t have a spell check button?) I have shared them with my fiancé and a select few others who I believe I can trust. What I really need to do is stop letting people get under my skin and wasting precious time and energy thinking about it. That said, this the only one time I will comment on them. Perhaps I should also send this post up in a smoke signal or via the Ouija board in the hope my E-Mailer will see it?
The funny thing is, these emails offer all sorts of tips and insights into my life and who I (to him?/her?) apparently am. Hmm.. I wonder why someone who feels such an obligation to let me know these things wouldn’t well, just let me know. Why the anonymous forum? I also wonder why this person, feels the moral obligation to “straighten me out” and judge me? Here’s a tip for you, Anonymous E-Mailer, if you don’t like me and you don’t like reading my blog or my Facebook page notes and posts… don’t. It really IS as simple as that. No, really, it is.
I can’t think of a single person (this includes myself) who couldn’t spend some time asking themselves whether or not they, themselves, have a moral obligation to avoid damaging another person with their words or actions. Haven’t we all done this at one time or another? Blurted out things rolling around in our heads only to find our foot, half a leg even or both feet, in our mouths? I have. However, creating a fake email account or Facebook profile and setting out to intentionally destroy someone is a completely different matter all-together which takes things to a different level and a whole other playing field. This game is now in its seventh week and as I am unsure how the scoring system works, I have no idea if it will end any time soon.
Maybe it’s the Cancer in my birth chart. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m over forty years old now. Maybe it’s because I have a daughter watching me and making me walk my talk. Maybe it’s because unity, harmony, and integrity are theme words that I wish were more prevalent. Whatever the reason, to me the definition of integrity is “doing the right thing, because it’s the right thing to do” not because someone told you “It’s The Law and therefore you MUST do the right thing whether you like it or not.” Integrity is simply self-governing, self-discipline, self-monitoring, and of course self-awareness. Integrity is those decisions we make when nobody is around to see us. (Such as sending anonymous e-mails). Integrity is the choices you make and how you conduct yourself when you are absolutely certain you won’t get caught. (Are you certain Anonymous E-Mailer?) Integrity is the authentic real you. Integrity is your real code of ethics that you pick and choose minute by minute of each and every day. We cannot live to achieve our highest good, if we are not keenly aware of integrity and the truth of who and what we are.
So I suppose then, I owe you a “thank you” Anonymous E-Mailer, for cluing me in to who and what I am. I never would have become aware of the self-centered, jealous, acquisitive, “fugly” (your word Anonymous E-Mailer. See, I was paying attention :) person I am without your keen insight. I would however, suggest in future communications you might kindly consider another form of advice for me. Please DO let me know how I can achieve your righteousness and perfection of the human species. Instead of advising me on my faults, I respectfully request you let me know how it is that I can change to benefit not only myself but those around me and perhaps become more like you.
My thoughts: Anonymous E-Mailer, you obviously have the perfect set of morals/values and have an immense need and dare I say, obligation to pass these along. You obviously have the ideal set of friends, family; I assume Anonymous E-Mailer, that you have a flawless home which is utterly spotless, career and relationship that is overwhelmingly satisfying and vehicle which is a model which well, models your achieved status in life; I’m guessing you probably give blood, are an organ donor, volunteer your time to various charities, go to church on a regularly scheduled basis; I’m sure you whip up the most wonderful meals while still finding time to save the planet, walk your dog (if you have one, he/she was surely adopted from a rescue shelter along with a kitten or two), recycle and oh yes, email me. Probably all while baking cupcakes and whistling while you work. Am I close?
Anonymous E-Mailer, I’m pretty sure you are completely lost in the ideological maze that is sarcasm as your attempts at it in your e-mails fall short. (Whoops, there I go again being less than amiable). Though I have, on more than one occasion of reading your e-mails, overestimated your innate capability of intelligent thought, I am willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and expect that it is the former possibility. If I am wrong, well, don’t fret; sarcasm is an intellectually challenging mode of communication and I am sure that somewhere out there, there is an intellectually and technologically savvy short bus more than willing to shuttle you to and from wherever it is you need to go while saving poor souls such as myself if your car ever breaks down.
Anonymous E-Mailer, I would rather have a real enemy than a fake friend any day so please either stop the e-mails or expose yourself for the enemy or fake friend you are.
Sincerely,
A “Fugly” (yet Sarcastic) Bitch (damn, there I go again.. )
86 The Bullshit readers and tell me your thoughts on Anonymous E-Mailer and more importantly, integrity. Is it okay to create a fake email address and let someone “have it”? Talk to me…
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